A few minutes ago, someone walked in and said, “My wife and I ENJOY your Facebook!” I immediately felt bad about how much energy I put into resenting those people who make negative comments.
Today I decided to focus on the fans, not the haterz.
Some things that happened recently showed me that there ARE supporters out there–I am just usually too focused on deflecting the haters, saboteurs, critics and others like them.
story: This week someone booked me for a show, saying, “Yeah, I saw your last 3 shows, you were AWESOME! I snorted out my nose, I was almost CRYING! And that last show you booked you had a magician.” That was several years ago. And he still remembered…
Then yesterday I called a business for some information, the guy answering the phone asked where I was from. North of Pittsburgh means Cranberry? I said, “The OTHER Cranberry.” Right away he said, “Oh, Oil City/Franklin?” First, I knew he was brilliant and could read a map. Then his next question was a surprise: “Did you used to do a lot of networking? Because I saw your speech in Hermitage, and you were at another networking event, and then you did comedy at my wine party one year.” Again that was YEARS ago.
I was astounded by these people, because I don’t even remember when I have appointments, even though the secretary calls me, and they write it on a card and I also put it in my phone calendar.
So next time I am engulfed with the negative, protecting myself from haterz, wondering what someone thinks of me, or regaling something bad someone said to or about me–I’m gonna stop and say, “Get your head out of your Hass (German for Hate, like ‘haterz’).”
Maybe it’s like Don Morgan of Positivity Academy says: For every negative you need 3 to 5 positive things to bring yourself back into balance.
Funny, I think that is exactly what I did on Monday’s show. I was asked to present an employee motivation program not just to celebrate the summer. It was also set up to voice some repressed anger at events and people in power.
So I performed as one of my comedy characters, with customized material about their group’s frustrations on the job. Their laughter was one of release, of feeling understood and heard. As I commented humorously on their workplace fails and aggravation–they suddenly got one, then two, then three or more positives. They were on their way to balance.
THOSE are the things I should start remembering too…